Everyone has "a list".
It's composed of the markers we, often under the influence of others, set for ourselves in order to achieve a content and fulfilling life.
It sucks when those markers aren't met, especially when we aren't even sure we want to reach them.
I first watched Drew Dudley's TEDx talk after attending his opening keynote at York University's Mental Health Conference for Peer Leaders in Toronto. As the Founder and Chief Catalyst of Nuance Leadership Inc., Drew is a genius at helping us recognize our own role in taking leadership of our goals in our everyday lives.
His message is simple: If your list doesn't make sense, it is never too late to change it. What matters most is that your life goals and achievements are your own. Certain markers that we, or someone else has set may no longer hold interest and value to us. They become a sort of burden, as if we have to achieve them just because they are there. The problem is, there is no real prize for achieving markers that don't hold meaning to us anymore.
"As a matter of fact, I think we have an obligation to ourselves to keep making changes in our life until it is a life that we want and a life that we deserve, but that list is so powerful."
What happens when we decide to shake up and re-evaluate the markers we've set for ourselves?
Our "list" starts to change. We start to wonder, what would it be like to create new markers that energize us and make us excited about achievement?
Taking the lead on your career transition means setting new markers that are your own, and that come from a place of personal inspiration and motivation. No matter how big or small the changes you make to your "list", you are creating a career pathway that is more in tune with your wants and needs. There may still be surprises around the bend, but at least you can realize that no markers are set in stone, and no "list" is eternal. Things change, and so do we.
"I don't think we can lead other people until we can lead ourselves. And I think the start of leading ourselves is being able to ask ourselves honestly, in what part of my life, in my job, my health, my relationships, in what part of my life am I settling? And then say, I will not do it for one more day."